Having a baby in another country is daunting. Learning to navigate the healthcare system, insurance, maternity leave and all that is confusing. Your parents and your family are not here. You don’t always know where to get what you need. The list goes on and on. Basically it’s just tough.
But that’s not even the half of it. The biggest hurdles are the cultural aspects of it. I am 5 months along and every now and then I am told not to do something that just makes me shake my head. One woman at work, who I LOVE, tells me every day that I am getting more and more beautiful every day and that means I am having a girl. And the other day, my boss yelled at me and told me to dump the ice out of my water. Things are just different. So I decided to look into just what are my do’s and dont’s culturally when it comes to having a baby in China. Well, actually, it is mostly the don’ts. Here’s the list of what I found.
1) Don’t sew on the bed. It can lead to a cleft lip.
2) Don’t announce the pregnancy early.
3) If you eat crab, your kid will be naughty.
4) Eating mutton may lead to epilepsy for the baby.
5) Don’t sit at the sharp or pointed edge of a rectangular table. It will direct bad energy to the baby.
6) Don’t attend weddings.
7) Don’t attend funerals and if you do wear a red scarf.
8) Don’t look at frightening or ugly images of animals, babies or monsters or your baby could look like them. No watching horror movies.
9) Don’t renovate, redecorate or move into a new home.
10) You can dictate the baby’s destiny if you opt for a c-section.
11) You are fragile and as such, can’t have sex in the first or third trimester.
12) Ice cream is off limits – as are bananas and pineapples.
13) Crying during labor is forbidden.
14) Don’t raise your hands above your shoulders.
13) Don’t let others rub your belly.
14) No physical work.
15) Do not clear blocked drains.
16) Don’t eat cold or raw food or drink ice water.
17) Don’t express your own beauty.
18) Stay happy or your baby will have a sour face.
19) Put a knife under the bed.
20) Don’t buy the stroller before the baby is born.